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Love is a feeling that is hard to define and when your partner asks you why you love him, you have nothing to say. You keep wondering what made you fall in love with him but get no clear answers.

Many teenage couples buy cards with ‘Reasons why I love you’ and gift them to their lovers. But how about knowing yourself why you love your mate and tell him in person? A little introspection and you would have the answers at your tips.

Tell him the following things :

1. You are a bad boy and I love bad boys.

2. You are an amazing kisser and I believe our love life would be rocking.

3. My mom says you are the best thing that has happened to me.

4. My friends are so jealous when you are with me.

5. Each time I dress up, I feel you are standing behind me to help me select the dress you would prefer on me.

6. When I look into the mirror, I see you smiling at me.

7. When I cry, I want you to hug me and console me.

8. When you get the punishment in school, I feel like taking it all on me instead of letting you have it all alone.

9. When I see you playing in the sun, I want to go up to you and offer you some energy drink and a towel to wipe your sweat.

10. Whenever I am happy or excited, you are the first person I want to share my happiness with.

11. I feel I have nothing else to discuss with friends apart from you.

12. When you tease me in college, I love it and I know how it makes others so jealous of me.

13. When you crack a joke on me, I get angry. But the same joke makes me smile at night.

14. Whenever I think of you, the phone automatically rings and it’s always you on the other end.

15. When I read a love story, I consider you and me as lovers in the novel.

16. I dream and imagine you and me ten years later, settled in our own house.

So go grab your particular reason for loving your mate and get rid of all those cheesy reasons that do not match with your style.

A relation is built on 3 very important pillars – Love, Trust and Loyalty. Loyalty and Trust may seem the same – but they in fact are totally different. When you know that your partner will never cheat on you – its TRUST and when you decide not to cheat on your partner, no matter what – That’s LOYALTY. It could be put best as the 2 faces of the same coin, without either side – the coin is useless. Now you would wonder what LOVE would be in this coin – I’d say the coin itself could be called the love the more the LOVE the stronger the coin.

So is there any limit to how much you can trust someone in a relationship? The answer is a straight NO, there definitely is no limit as to how much you can trust your partner. When you are in a relationship, it is very necessary to trust your partner with all your heart and soul. Of course by that I don’t mean you trust them blindly, because if you do that – the next thing you know is that you’ve made a terrible fool out of yourself and you’ve grown a weird beard with a bottle of wine and a pack of cigarettes and of course a broken heart. Here’s when transparency comes into picture. If the relation you are in is the ONE, then its important that you remain transparent to your partner, tell them about all the small little things which happen in your life, how your day had been, and most importantly never ever keep a secret from your partner; it doesn’t matter if its a big one, a small one or whatever – secrets have a tendency to bring gaps in a relationship – the longer you keep a secret from sharing with your partner, the more damage it may create, sometimes the secret may not be the reason to the distance in your relation, its the fact that it was kept hidden for such a long time which may create the distance. Of course there’s always a right time to share everything, but you need to make sure that you tell it out at the first opportunity you receive to spill the secret, because if the secret is found out by your partner in any way other than from you, its going to be bad and depending on the intensity of the secret, it may even break the relation.

Now let me clarify that by a secret I don’t mean the one’s like you once puked in a classroom in front of all your friends. By secret I mean things that really really do matter to your partner. For some, it may be you talking excessively with someone your partner hates, for a few it may be a past relationship, for a few it may be a lot of other things. Secret in the true sense is a relative term which is moved up and down on an intensity chart based on factors like Culture, Religion, Ego, Insecurity, Previous history, etc. So, clearly a secret which may break ones relation may not essentially be a relation breaking secret in another couple. But whatever it be, the bottom line is if you want your partner to trust you will all their heart, you got to be transparent – its that way or the highway!

Having said the importance of Transparency to build trust, I am going to move another aspect – Space in a relationship. Space in a relationship is equally important, because providing just the right amount of space plays a pivotal role in developing loyalty from your partner. Again space varies in every relationship on the same factors which determine a Secrets intensity – culture, religion, ego… A few believe Space might bring distance, well lets just say you need to allow your partner to have their space so they can breathe but don’t allow a distance so they think you’ve pushed them away and are not bothered. Be there for your partner, because if this is THE relation – then your partner needs you all the time, not because they can’t do without you, but because they love you and wouldn’t want to be without you.

So what is space? is it allowing your partner to do whatever they want however they want; well partly that’s what it is, but that doesn’t mean they actually do whatever they want however they want – this is where transparency on your partners part should show up. Because there might be a few things you do which your partner doesn’t like and a few things your partner does which you don’t like – these should go outside the circle of space, But make sure you have a reasonable reason to keep it out of the circle of space and not just because you said so! Because when you do that you are not only constraining the circle but are going to choke your partner and the last thing you want is for your partner to choke in your relation. Give them space and if there’s something which bothers you in that space circle, talk to your partner and express yourself to them, tell them why you think that should be out of the circle of space. Believe me when you talk, no one other than your true partner would listen to you leaving everything aside, so you know for one thing that you are being heard to at least, after having expressed your concern, if your partner tries explaining you that there’s no harm in it being in the space circle, you too need to listen to their point of view as well come to the right decision about whether or not it falls in the space circle.